“You’re stuck with me!”
Ha! Sounds funny, doesn’t it? Truth be told, it often IS funny when you hear me or Tiffani say it. We use this phrase on one another in various ways, and it’s most often said in a goofy voice, and with a grin on our face. Then we share a giggle over it.
But there is DEEP meaning in it for us. Even though we may have a laugh when one of us says it, if you know our tainted marital history, you would know that these words carry significant weight in the covenant we have made with each other.
Tiffani and I have literally grown up together. We met as teenagers. With the exception of the 11 months we spent separated 2 years into our marriage, we’ve been in each other’s company for nearly 32 years. We’ve seen the good, the bad, and the UGLY in each other. It took a lot of years to figure out what love really meant to each of us. Terrible pain, brought into the marriage by both of us, was what it took to make us realize that we needed to learn how to trust each other, how to communicate truthfully and openly, and how to live without secrets.
It was eye-opening when we realized that we had walked through the valley of the shadow of marital death, and had come out the other side not glaring at each other in hatred, but holding hands in love. We were not alone in that valley… In the book of Daniel chapter 3, when Shadrach, Meshach and Abed-nego were in King Nebuchadnezzar’s furnace, the King looked into that furnace and said “Didn’t we throw in 3 men? Why is it that now I see FOUR? And the fourth man looks like the Son of God!” In much the same way, Jesus chose to walk through that valley with us, and we are very grateful that He did.
And now that I know there’s one woman on earth who has seen me at my worst, and yet she still chooses to share life with me, there’s only one thing I can say to her…
Tiffani… You’re stuck with me, chick!