Fairly often, I get asked some variation of the question, “What’s your secret to having the marriage you and Tiffani have?”
Each time I get asked, I take a moment to ponder in my mind… Have we achieved some “super-holy, magical-mystical, nirvana-like” marital state, unattainable by the masses?
And each time I’ve pondered, I’ve arrived at the same answer… Absolutely not.
Acts 10:34-35 in the New American Standard Translation says this… Opening his mouth, Peter said: “I most certainly understand now that God is not one to show partiality, but in every nation the man who fears Him and does what is right is welcome to Him. The King James version says it this way… Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons: But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him.
Absolutely nothing… neither your job title nor your marital situation – not even the number of zeroes before the decimal on your paycheck will cause God to give or withhold His blessing from your marriage. Instead, the answer is found here “…but in every nation the man who fears Him and does what is right is welcome to Him.” From the ditch-digger to the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, God sees only people – not status. So be encouraged!
There are a few basic steps required to get to the place where we are now.
- Strength in Christ – find it.
- Faith in Christ – keep it.
- Pride in self – lose it.
- A servant’s heart – develop it.
- Friendship with your spouse – build it.
- The “D-word” (divorce) – forget it.
- The “F-word” (forgiveness) – LIVE IT!!
You may look at those items and think “that’s over-simplified.” And maybe you’re right. But the facts are that these things are what we’ve done to get to the place we are today. It really was as simple as two people coming to the same conclusion… “we’re in a bad place in our marriage, and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make it right with you.” It doesn’t need to be more difficult than that, so stop overthinking it.
Talk to your spouse. Show them this post if you believe it will help.
We’re here, and willing to walk through the valley with you.
May your marriage be wrapped in His peace.
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