Today is Day Nine of “The Respect Dare” and we are discussing how extending grace and overlooking offenses honors God.

“A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult” ~ Proverbs 12:16 NIV

Yesterday, I confessed my failure in this very area with my husband the night before.

But, he isn’t the only one I struggle with in this area. Because I homeschool and my children are with me 24/7, they also see more of my annoyance than they should. This is an area that requires balance that I am still working through. Because while I do need to extend grace and mercy, I am also training them in righteousness.

However, on this particular day, the Lord figured I needed another object lesson. And that is (in part) why this blog post is up so late in the day. Please forgive me for the delay.

Our youngest daughter will be 7 in ten more days and has been dealing with a nasty poison ivy rash for more than the last two weeks. It was still spreading this morning when she woke up, so I knew it was time to have the pediatrician help us with stronger topical creams. So, throwing all our other plans for this morning away, off we went into town.

The pediatrician visit went well and we were soon on our way to the pharmacy to get her prescription filled. The place was empty. Maybe three cars in the lot and one other person in the store. They told me it would be at least an hour wait! This has become a common theme at this place and is highly frustrating when a trip into town already means at least 45 minutes each way, in addition to the time our errands in town take. I was not pleased with this plan.

However, instead of getting angry and spouting off in a most ungodly manner to the pharmacy tech, I instead asked if they could please be sure it was rushed, as I had three other children waiting at home and that I would run an errand across the street and be right back. I could have chosen to be angry and react in that anger. I chose to be angry, but not react in it. I also took the time to pray for the poor staff that didn’t ask for the budget cuts to affect their lives or to bear the brunt from customers who were likely just as frustrated or angry as I’ve been.

What are some ways that you can extend grace to your husband? Would he say that you typically overlook an insult or that you are hotheaded? How about the rest of your family?

Heavenly Father, yet again, I thank you for the humbling object lesson that you provided me with for today’s dare. I was even more blessed that my youngest daughter was with me and could have the opportunity to see mommy be frustrated and yet not act in sin. Thank you for helping me to keep my tongue in check and for being able to rejoice in the midst of my schedule change.

I pray that you would continue to guide each of these days with plenty of opportunities to serve You more fully and to be an example worth following.

I also pray that you would help me to be more diligent with my time to get these posts up earlier and my quiet time earlier so that they are not put off until later in the day. I always feel so out of sorts when I’ve not been refreshed by time with you before my day goes to complete chaos. Thank you for loving me more than I could ever imagine and for changing me daily to be more like You. Please touch each lady who is doing this dare along with me and I thank You for each and every one of them.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

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What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

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Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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4 thoughts on “The Respect Dare – Day 9

  1. Orenda says:

    What a great blog! I can so relate when going somewhere and the unexpected happens, and you got a choice act a fool or like you said ” be angry and not sin” Sad to say I used to choose the act the fool first to the point it made my husband literally walk out of the store. I was blind to my behaviors and how they affect other people around me and my husband. I had the I don’t care attitude and I don’t care who sees me! But thank the Lord He’s working with me and I’m learning to be humble, be angry, breathe and walk away. I got to remember I’m Jesus Christ light and me acting like a fool in public, well that just doesn’t represent who Jesus is. Thank you for the great reminder to be angry but don’t sin! God Bless

    1. Tiffani says:

      Thank you Orenda. I know we are all still learning. God is so good!

  2. April says:

    I just HAVE to thank you for giving grace to the pharmacy staff! As a pharmacist – I know the stress of that job – especially if it is a retail chain. Pharmacists are expected to fill every prescription accurately 100% of the time, or people could be injured or killed. They are supposed to answer hundreds of questions per day. They are supposed to be available at all times to give a number of different vaccines, check blood pressure, check cholesterol and blood sugar. They are supposed to counsel patients on new prescriptions. They are supposed to catch every possible drug interaction – that is important – while sifting through hundreds of interactions that usually don’t matter each day. They are supposed to pick up the phone by the 3rd ring and say hello to customers within 10 seconds of them approaching the counter. They have all kinds of federal and state laws to follow plus the chain’s hundreds of policies. They have to deal with prescription forgeries and drug addicts and the threat of being robbed at gunpoint on any given day. They have patient who are very sick and irritable and many times get cussed out multiple times per day – especially in the busier stores.

    Sometimes, they are filling 300-400 rxs per day with only one technician. Many pharmacists get ZERO bathroom breaks and ZERO lunch breaks. One chain I worked in stopped letting us even have food in the pharmacy, but we weren’t allowed to leave. Thankfully, we only had 8 hour shifts there, but I have worked at chains where the shifts were 14 hours with no breaks at all.

    Most pharmacists and techs try to estimate about 5 minutes per prescription for an accurate wait time. But all kinds of things can go wrong – there are dozens of calls that have to be made to insurance companies and doctors’ offices when certain drugs aren’t covered. Some drugs have to be compounded from scratch.

    THere are also many chores to do and inventory to count and keep track of and drug orders to make and new inventory to put away. Many pharmacies now have robots and automated cells that count some of the more popular pills. They mess up a lot and have to be fixed. The printers jam often or go down a lot in many stores – adding to the weight and frustration for everyone.

    So THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for giving grace to the pharmacy staff!!!!!!!! 🙂

    When I worked at one particular chain – our tech hours were cut so much that I only had a tech for 4 of my 8 hours and I filled 150 rxs in that time. In California, it is illegal for pharmacists to fill more than 12 rxs/hour.

    When we rush – we are most likely to make mistakes.

    This is a difficult dare. God has empowered me and taught me so much about this topic with my husband. I do still struggle with not losing my patience with my children when they don’t obey. It is a difficult balance to be loving and affectionate and yet still do things on time and discipline properly without being harsh.

    Thank you for sharing!!!!!!!
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    1. Tiffani says:

      I thought of you while I was writing this too, April. I feel so badly for the staff. I know that there are deeper issues than what I could see today. It was still frustrating, but honestly there really wasn’t anything they could do about it, so being angry wouldn’t have solved anything and I wouldn’t have felt any better by letting my frustration be heard (or seen) more.

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