Today is Day Seven of “The Respect Dare” and we are examining our words with others about our husbands.

” Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” ~ Ephesians 4:29 NIV

“If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” Most of us have heard this at least once in our lives and know how it feels to be on the receiving end of someone who didn’t have anything nice to say but spoke anyway. How did that feel?

Todays dare is about how you speak to others about your husband. Are you respecting him when you speak to your best friends or family about him when he isn’t around? What impression of your husband do other people have because of how you speak of him?

There is a very precious woman of God in our church whom I adore. Her friendship is precious to me for many reasons. Not the least of which is the example that she gives through her daily walk. Her husband was unsaved for probably two decades while she faithfully prayed and served him. But, one of the things that inspired me most was the fact that I never heard her speak one harsh, discontent, or disrespectful word about him in the 14+ years that we’ve been in church here – either when asked about him or when speaking about him to others. She always spoke tenderly and lovingly about him. She still prayed for his salvation and asked others to do the same, but never in judgement or with anything other than love and respect.

“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 6:11-12 NIV

We should use the power of our tongue to bless and bring good to our husbands. Does your husband have full confidence in you? Why or why not? Are we gossipers and complainers? Are your friends influencing you or are you influencing them?

If you have friends who are always speaking harshly or disrespectfully about their husbands, have you tried speaking to them privately about this? Or, do you join right in? Or do you just try not to join in, but never say anything? Seek The Lord for how you can best honor Him in this area.

We are often unaware of how we may be disrespecting or harming our husbands through our speech. As you go through your day, speak encouraging words to your husband and only communicate in positive and respectful ways about your husband to others.

Heavenly Father, it is so common in today’s world to cut down our men at every opportunity. We have men who won’t step up and lead because we have spent years cutting them down and cutting them off. Forgive us for our double minded ways and sharp tongues.

Lord, I pray that today every word out of my mouth about my husband or to my husband would be respectful and encouraging. Let the words of my mouth bring life and not death. Let them bring encouragement and strength. Father, please convict me quickly of any speech or attitude that does not honor you and bless my husband, that I may repent.

I continue to lift the ladies who are also doing this study before your throne and pray that this dare would be one that they would have victory in. Let their eyes and ears be opened and the hearts softened.

Thank you Lord for all that you are doing in our lives. Thank you that there is nothing that is impossible for you. Show us Your path and help each of us to walk in it.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

I Dare You!


What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

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Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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