Today is Day Six of “The Respect Dare” and we are serving our husbands with random acts of kindness.

“Do everything without complaining or arguing.” ~ Philippians 2:14 NIV

Oh my. I serve my husband all day, every day, (mostly) without hesitation. We have a small farmette. I am homeschooling our youngest four children. I support my husband with the worship ministry and sing on the team also. I minister to the women in our local church. I run my own small business. I am a Titus 2 older woman for our daughter-in-love and our two grandbabies, as their family is living in an RV on our property and trying to get on their feet. Acts of service is my primary love language.

But, in the midst of all that, I must admit that the “without complaining or arguing” part seems to have gotten the best of me lately. I’ve become so weary in doing good and with physical challenges that I’ve been seeking the fulfillment of others noticing and appreciating what I do. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know that my husband appreciates me. I do sometimes wonder if he realizes just how much I carry around here daily.

So, that is the first thing I am going to work on this week. I am going to strive to serve with a heart that doesn’t grumble or argue.

Second, my husbands primary love language is physical touch. I know that he will be stretched with a very busy week and may need some extra snuggle or intimate time. This is a challenge for me because of physical health issues I have. Chronic pain can be such a struggle and it wears us both down. But, I am going to pray and seek the Lord for opportunities to bless my husband in whatever way I am capable. This will especially mean more time just snuggling before going to sleep. I often underestimate how much this means to him.

I also have been reminded that our service to our families has a higher calling. We are to serve them as unto You. Jesus came and washed the feet of the disciples. He didn’t seek recognition or glory. He sought to glorify You. I want to have the same heart of service.

What are some ways that you can serve your husband this week without complaining or arguing? How about serving him a special meal? Packing his lunch? Cleaning out his car? Running an errand for him?

Heavenly Father, Please forgive my grumbling and discontent heart. I pray that you would help me to serve without seeking recognition or reward. I long to be joyful in my service to my family.

I lift up those who are facing this dare with heavy hearts because they feel that their efforts are never seen. Lord, I know that You see everything. I pray that Your appreciation for their efforts would be felt in amazing ways and that they would take their eyes off of their worldly rewards and turn them to the heavenly rewards that await.

Let each of us look to You for the example of being a humble servant. Jesus came to serve, not to be served. I pray that we would seek to serve our families with like hearts and to rejoice in the mission that you’ve laid before us. I pray that each one of us would seek to glorify You in all that we do to serve our husbands.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

I Dare You!


What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

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Unbroken Woman

Peaceful Wife

Forgiven Wife

Broken But Not Forgotten

Marriage Is Your First Ministry

Feel free to email me if you have any questions or private prayer requests.

Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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