Today is Day Twenty-eight of “The Respect Dare” and we are discussing sexual intimacy in marriage.
“The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” ~ 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 NKJV
There are so many different aspects to sexual intimacy in marriage. We have an amazing God who loved us so much that he made procreation multi-faceted for humans. We have the ability to connect on a physical, spiritual, and emotional level through sex.
My poor husband spent two decades afraid to tell me how much more physical intimacy he really wanted. There are various parts of my past that negatively affected my views and approaches to sex. It wasn’t until I finally went to study the Word of God to try to understand what God’s “ideal” was that I have been able to make some changes. Things still aren’t where either of us would like them, but that discussion is too complicated for this blog post and is something that we are both still working on and praying through.
What I do know is this… God designed intimacy in marriage to be a representation of the intimacy we experience with him. There is nothing that I don’t want to do for my savior. I desire to spend time sitting at his feet and serving Him in whatever ways He asks of me. I should be just as willing to be the same with my husband.
Are you eager to meet your husband’s physical needs? Let me tell you, please PLEASE be a generous lover of your husband NOW. You do not know what tomorrow will bring and what health issues may change everything you’ve ever known or thought was “normal”. Take time to bless him now and watch how much that in turn becomes a gift and blessing to you. Do not waste this precious gift. And don’t assume that he is satisfied just because he has stopped initiating. Initiate… and ask him boldly if he is really satisfied or if things have changed.
Lord, you alone know how much this subject breaks my heart. I pray that You would help me to be a generous lover in the ways that I am capable and that you would bless my husband through me in every way possible. Please forgive me for being so selfish and naive earlier in our marriage.
I pray that You would help the other ladies who are doing this study to be generous with their physical affection and sexual interest. Let them be unselfish lovers. I pray that each one of us would be more in love with our husbands each day and would show our desire for them regularly. Thank you for taking this study and others to help us see your plans for respecting and blessing our husbands.
In Jesus’ Name… Amen
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Godspeed… ~ Tiffani