Today is Day Nineteen of “The Respect Dare” and we are going to talk about keeping order in our homes.

“For God is not a God of disorder but of peace… But everything should be done in a fitting and orderly way.” ~ 1 Corinthians 14:33, 40 NIV

My home will never grace the cover or even be inside a Better Homes and Gardens magazine. It’s not that I don’t love that beautiful appearance. It’s that our home is lived in and there are still children (and grandchildren) being raised and home educated within these walls. I was also not raised or taught to be a homemaker. So, I still have a lot to learn.

Our home has been in chaos for at least the last three years… more likely the last five. Between medical issues, a layoff, months of unemployment, selling our dream home, living with my parents for several months, moving to smaller ranch house with land (that needs work), and having even more medical issues… order has seemed very elusive.

We also have our oldest son, daughter-in-love, and two granddaughters living with us right now. They have been here for the better part of two years and both girls were born here in this house. This has brought an entirely new level of craziness to our home. I will be the first to admit that this is overwhelming most of the time. But, I know that God has a plan for their time here. Part of that plan is for me to help my daughter-in-love learn how to be her own Titus 2 woman and keeper of her home. There are also quite a few things I can learn from her

I have been taking a more active role in bringing order back within our walls over the last six months. Being more intentional about spending time with the Lord no matter what the pain level and circumstances have been has been a big help. Keeping a planning calendar helps me guard my time.

As a homeschooling mom, sometimes order doesn’t look quite like I expected. Last year I completely switched our entire homeschool curriculum and routines. It is much more work for me now. But, this is a challenge I knew was needed. I homeschool to train them up in God’s ways and to capture their hearts while they are young. Our easier homeschool curriculum gave me more time where I wasn’t having to be so deeply involved, but I also wasn’t holding their hearts. So, while this change requires more from me, it also brings peace and order in other ways.

Clutter. We have way too much clutter based on the downsized home we were blessed with. We also have a decided lack of finances these days. So, I am praying through plans to put together a large autumn yard sale. We cannot afford the organizational tools that we need in the house, so perhaps we really should just get rid of more. I’ve always said that the Lord could strike a match to it and it would all be gone if that was His wish. On the other hand, I gave up my dream home and a lot that was in it… how much more am I called to do without? Maybe I don’t want an answer to that yet.

Lord, I am an emotional mess right now. Many things weigh heavily on my heart. I would really rather live in poverty and be in your will than to have everything I ever dreamed of and be outside your will. But, I am also just like every other girl who dreams of having more than enough to make her home beautiful and a blessing for those who are in it.

Please help me to see areas that I need to get rid of clutter or things. Please help me to be an example of peace and order within my home. And please forgive me for looking back longingly at what you asked us to willingly give up in order to better serve You. I know that this is where You called us to be, so why does it still not feel like “home”?

Please help me to train my children in keeping an orderly and joy filled home. I pray that my husband would be blessed by all that I do and not harmed. I also pray that You would show him any areas that he needs to deal with regarding this issue. I do not wish to be a nag or be disrespectful.

I pray that we would hold things of this earth loosely, for they truly all belong to You. Thank You for all that you are doing through this study in each one of our lives. May we bless and glorify You.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

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What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

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Broken But Not Forgotten

Marriage Is Your First Ministry

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Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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