Today is Day Seventeen of “The Respect Dare” and we are going to work on encouraging our husbands.

“Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” ~ Proverbs 16:24 NIV

We are nearing the half-way point in our Respect Dare. I am painfully aware of my failures even as I write this. I know that The Lord is working in and through me. But I feel like such a huge transformation is needed and I’m moving at a snails pace. I look forward to hearing my husband one day making note of changes in me because of this. But right now that feels awfully far away.

We all know how good it feels to be encouraged and appreciated but often are lacking in how we express it in kind to our husbands. This dare is all about noticing your husband’s strengths and taking the time to thank and encourage him in these areas.

When Jason was living with friends in Northern Virginia during the week and home on weekends two years ago while we waited first for our house in West Virginia to sell and then to find our current home, I would regularly send a card hidden in his work laptop case with him the next week to make sure he knew how much I loved, appreciated, and missed him. Things have gotten busy and I admit that I’ve slacked in this area. So, I’m going to work on randomly doing that again. I know how much it blessed him then.

What are the areas that your husband is strong in and how can you encourage him? Write him a note telling him how much you love him and appreciate those specific areas. Hide little love and appreciation notes in places that you know he will eventually find.

And, if you are bold, in one of the love notes give him a personal invitation to a private time of intimacy that is all about him. Be specific and enjoy being creative.

Heavenly Father, thank You for the amazing gift you have given me in my husband. He has always worked hard to provide for us. I am so thankful that he has a job that he loves and that covers our needs. I pray that you would help me to be an encourager of my husband and that I would not be focused on my own needs, but instead focused on meeting his.

Thank You for giving me such an amazing husband who truly desires for me to be happy and always tells me how beautiful I am to him. I pray that I would be at least as much of a blessing to him as he is to me, if not more.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

I Dare You!

and

What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

Also, please check out the author’s blog at http://ninaroesner.com

DAY 17 STUDY LEADERS’ LINKS

Unbroken Woman

Peaceful Wife

Forgiven Wife

Broken But Not Forgotten

Marriage Is Your First Ministry

Feel free to email me if you have any questions or private prayer requests.

Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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5 thoughts on “The Respect Dare – Day 17

  1. Laura says:

    I love to read your posts. I follow you guys on twitter and y’all always put a smile on my face. It’s plain to see the love you guys have for one another. I’m envious! šŸ™‚

    1. Tiffani says:

      Thank you, Laura!

  2. Chris says:

    “We are nearing the half-way point in our Respect Dare. I am painfully aware of my failures even as I write this. I know that The Lord is working in and through me. But I feel like such a huge transformation is needed and Iā€™m moving at a snails pace. I look forward to hearing my husband one day making note of changes in me because of this. But right now that feels awfully far away.”

    This is exactly how I’m feeling! Just about every day, I find out a new way I’m broken and failing. When I remember to look, though, I also see one small area of growth just about every day. I need to hang onto those things more. I suspect we all do.

    I asked my husband this morning if he’s seeing in change or if the change is visible only to me. He said, “Well, you use kinder words when you rebuke me.” Sigh. He meant it as a positive thing, but I thought, “Oh dear, a 40-day process isn’t nearly enough time for what I need to do.”

    1. Tiffani says:

      I am so thankful that I have a lifetime to continue to be molded and fashioned by the master Potter. But, I’m feeling a bit singed in the furnace these days. I’m holding onto the small areas of growth more now too.

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