Today is Day Thirteen of “The Respect Dare” and we are challenged to evaluate our responses to our husband and our level of busyness.
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” ~ Proverbs 31:27 NIV
My husband knows that I am very busy during the day and he trusts me to manage a wide area of our lives. But, he also trusts that when he asks me to do something that I will make time to fit it in. I am taking the time to teach our children that if something is important to Daddy, it is also important to us. So, it has been my goal to say yes when my husband calls and asks for my help with anything.
This dare was one of the things I had to pray about before committing to. My days are already scheduled to the max in preparation for a new homeschool year. The farm is in constant need of attention. And my level of pain often dictates a last minute change of plans. I needed to ask my husband if this was something he had the time to help me with the technical parts of and if he was okay with me adding it to my schedule. I didn’t need to ask him if I could actually do the dare… just if I could participate in blogging about the journey and encouraging other ladies. If he had said no, then I would have just been doing the dare privately and praying for the other leaders.
There are times that life just simply must be lived “undone”. This has been one of those seasons for me. Chronic pain and health struggles bring chaos in ways that I couldn’t have understood until now. Having our oldest son and daughter-in-love and two granddaughters living with us has also added other challenges. But that doesn’t mean that there is no order or calm safe undercurrent.
During this time of being undone around here, my home has been a wreck! Now, I do not claim to be Martha Stewart or Betty Crocker or June Cleaver. I was not trained in home management or even kitchen management. I have a certain level of cleanliness and order that I prefer and can manage. But, with four extra people in and out of our home and some added health issues, we have not been even close to that level for a long time.
To me, it is important for the kitchen to be cleaned and in order before bed. The next two areas of importance for me are the main bathroom and the living room. Those are the places that people will see when coming to visit. Beyond that, the homeschool area needs to be manageable. But, I know that my husband cares most that his bedroom is not a junk heap. So, I need to work more on keeping the bedroom cleaned and peaceful.
Nina says in the book, “Just because it is a good thing doesn’t mean God wants us doing it. Being too busy can make us tired, both emotionally and physically”. Boy can I relate to this! I am so grateful that I can go to my husband and ask him to direct my schedule. I used to think that it would be horrible to ask that of him – that I would somehow be less woman or something. But, it is freeing! Now, if someone complains that I am unable to help with a ministry I just refer them to him. He takes the heat and I can enjoy not being stretched too thin!
Ladies, take this week to be wise and prayerful about ways you can say yes to your husband and not overextend yourself in other areas. Ask your husband what is most important to him and focus on those things first. Ask for his input on what you see as most important. You might find that he agrees with you… or that he has a different view that is just as important. I fully admit that I don’t ask my husband daily what I can do for him. I serve him every day and I am pretty sure he would think I was asking because I didn’t have anything to do that day. Maybe I’m wrong, but there it is.
Mighty Savior, I know there is nothing impossible for You. I am so awestruck by your great love and mercy for me.
I submit this area entirely to You and ask You to change my heart and make it more like Yours. Open my eyes to see how I need to change and then move my feet down the path I am to walk. Please use my hands and lips as You see fit.
Please help me to bless my husband today and to be a wise manager of my time. Even beyond that, please help me to train my children to do the same. Let me be that example of servant leadership to them. Bless my husband as he works unto You this day. I thank You for all that you are doing and continue to do in our lives.
Father, You know our needs for provision for the farm. I lay them at Your feet and know that whatever You bless us with is more than enough. Help us to use our supplies and tools to their fullest.
Lord, I pray that today you would lift this extreme exhaustion I have been facing and renew my strength. I can see the many needs around my home today and yet lack the energy to tackle most of them. Show me which to do and which to delegate and which to just let go of.
Thank You that we can do all things through Your strength. Please minister to the ladies reading this and show them where you desire change and growth. Thank you for each and every one of them.
In Jesus’ Name… Amen!
If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.
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DAY 13 STUDY LEADERS’ LINKS
Marriage Is Your First Ministry
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Godspeed… ~ Tiffani