Today is Day Twelve of “The Respect Dare” and we are going to talk about leftovers.

“She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” ~ Proverbs 31:26 NASB

This. This right here. This is where I am right now. I am so stretched thin that by the time I get to the end of my day of serving everyone else, I really have nothing “leftover” for my poor husband. The hardest part is that I can truthfully say there isn’t anything extra or optional that I can just drop. But, something does have to change. Right now, that change is in my attitude.

And really, I signed up for some of these spiritual attacks! I just finished doing a local book study with friends on “Homeschooling With A Meek And Quiet Spirit”. I took one week off and jumped right into “The Respect Dare”. The enemy is truly not happy about my desire to be changed more into the likeness of Jesus. But, this journey is worth it to me. These changes are something I know the Lord has been calling me to from the very depths of my soul.

How often have I had a really rough day and taken it out on my husband without any concern for how his day has gone? Selfish! Selfish! Selfish! Oh how I desire to be kind and loving in my responses to my family no matter what I might personally be struggling with.

We’ve been dealing with a really bad poison ivy rash in our almost 7 year old apraxia girl for three weeks now. We finally got medicine on Thursday that is doing wonders for her. But, I was arrogant (or foolish) enough to tell the doctor that I was amazed that we’d been dealing with her for 3 weeks and yet not had anyone else with that rash yet. Two days later… really… TWO… and my almost 12 year old son wakes up with his face swollen and one eye swollen shut from an obvious poison ivy rash. Needless to say, I am home from church today with my two youngest boys just hanging out. I’m probably going to have to call the pediatrician just to verify what I need to do differently because it is so severe and covering his face and neck.

This ongoing health issue combined with a weight of many other things has led me to be short and rather unavailable to my poor husband. So, why can I see it and yet don’t seem to be able to do anything about it? Because I am still more focused on ME! I don’t have anything “leftover”.

While I am missing church and fellowship, I am also grateful for this short forced respite that will help me to recharge a bit and refocus to welcome my husband home later today. I am determined to have some good “leftovers” for him tonight. How about you? How kind are you being with your husband? What can you do today to honor God in the way you speak to your husband?

Oh Father, I feel overwhelmed sometimes by all that I lack and feel like a failure at. I know that I am right where you want me to be, I just don’t feel like I’m measuring up. Please help me to see where I am doing this life well and help me to be encouraged in Your plans for me.

Please keep my words wise and kind today. I continue to pray for healing for my family. Yet, I thank You for this special time of being able to find provision and healing in no one but You. Continue to grow our family and make our paths straight and true.

Please give me eyes to see and ears to hear how others perceive my words and responses. Help me to be Jesus to others.

Thank You for calming my heart and gently leading me back to your path when I feel like I’ve lost my way and want to quit. Thank You for loving me and dying for me.

In Jesus’ Name… Amen!

If you are just joining us, I am doing “The Respect Dare” 40 day challenge along with the ladies at Unbroken Woman and others.

I pray each of you have a great day and also make sure you are visiting The Unbroken Woman to enter to win gifts and be entered to win the Kindle Fire. Check out the following two links specifically:

I Dare You!


What to Expect When You Are Respecting: The Respect Dare Bible Study

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Unbroken Woman

Peaceful Wife

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Broken But Not Forgotten

Marriage Is Your First Ministry

Feel free to email me if you have any questions or private prayer requests.

Godspeed… ~ Tiffani

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