We’ve been very quiet here for quite a little while, so I thought I’d take a few minutes to share our situation with you.
Several months ago, Tiffani’s mom was told that she had a brain tumor. Surgery would be required to remove it, but that she had some time to decide for herself if she wanted to do the surgery, or decide against it. She began to pray, and seek counsel from her husband and her Pastor. She made the decision to go forward with the surgery. It was scheduled for Tuesday October 22nd.
Last Tuesday, Tiffani’s mom was prepped for surgery and rolled into the operating room. Tiffani sat in the waiting room for roughly the next 4 hours. The doctor came out to let her know that her mom was in the recovery room, and she was allowed to go sit with her mother once she was moved to the critical care unit. For the next couple of hours, Tiffani watched over her mom. She held her hand, prayed over her, and sang to her. Her mom squeezed Tiffani’s hand, fluttered her eyes, and even whispered “I love you” at one point. This was all very encouraging. But then…
She slipped into a deeper sleep… and stayed there.
Wednesday night, she stopped breathing around midnight and needed to be intubated. The hospital called the house to let her stepdad know. Tiffani and her dad were both up and at the hospital as soon as they unlocked the doors that morning.
It is now Wednesday October 30, and her mother continues to sleep. She has remained completely unresponsive to any attempts to communicate with her. The doctors have maintained vigilant monitoring of every bodily function day and night. They have checked her cranial pressure, the swelling of the brain, heart monitoring, brainwave activity, blood sugar and pressure… you name it, they’ve checked it – again and again.
Her doctor also now suspects (after multiple CT and MRI scans) that she may have suffered a few small strokes while she’s been laying there in the bed.
My dear, sweet wife has been at her mom’s side from early morning until late at night each and every day since last Tuesday. Then she goes to her mom & stepdad’s house to sleep, then arise and go do it all over again. She’s not staying here at our house because her parents live 90 miles away. Staying at her parents’ house allows her to be much more readily available if the hospital calls late at night.
This is hard on everyone… I miss my wife terribly, but I completely support her taking care of her mom. She is right where she needs to be at this time. I feel much more badly for our children, especially our youngest three. They know that their Grandma is sick, and mommy is taking care of her – but they certainly don’t grasp the gravity of the situation. They are 9, 7 and 5. Children under 12 are not allowed into the Intensive Care Unit, so they cannot go in and see their Grandma. And until she’s actually awake and talking, we’re not sure we want them to see her in this condition. Our oldest son and daughter-in-love (who live in an RV on our farm) have been doing an outstanding job of keeping our kids while I head to work each day. (We are homeschoolers.) They have two babies of their own, so having 4 more around is extra work. The past couple days my own mother has come over and stayed at our house to work with our kids too. Family is a blessing!
Tiffani is pretty much exhausted at the end of each day. She is keeping a very hard schedule – early morning to very late at night – and she’s out of her home element. Neither one of us sleeps very well without the other, and I kinda think she misses me and the kids too.
So, the doctor’s plan (to my limited understanding), is that they’re going to attempt bringing Tiffani’s mom out of this deep sleep gently starting sometime in the next couple of days. Nobody knows quite what to expect at this time, but there are a LOT of people praying for healing… friends and family alike. We would be grateful to any of you who feel the urge to pray for this very loved lady. We aren’t ready to lose her yet!
Some scriptures we’re hanging on to are here:
James 5:13-15 Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.
Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.
Psalm 30:2 O Lord my God, I cried to you for help, and you have healed me.
Matthew 25:35-40 ‘For I was hungry, and you gave Me something to eat; I was thirsty, and you gave Me drink; I was a stranger, and you invited Me in; naked, and you clothed Me; I was sick, and you visited Me; I was in prison, and you came to Me.’ “Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see You hungry, and feed You, or thirsty, and give You drink? ‘And when did we see You a stranger, and invite You in, or naked, and clothe You? ‘And when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You?’ “And the King will answer and say to them, ‘Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me.’