This month we were challenged by the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association (CMBA) to write a single blog post about date night… a favorite memory, why it’s important, etc. Below this post are links to the other CMBA Members’ posts. Some really great stuff in here – so please go visit their sites!

VDAY_2015_buttonWith Valentine’s Day coming up, there will be a lot of focus on special romance and date nights in the media. I wanted to share a little bit of my favorite type of date night with you.

My husband is an amazing steak chef. He makes the most delicious steak dinner I’ve ever had (and we’ve enjoyed quite a few). This is a rare treat for us right now, but still my favorite date night.

He will stop at the store on the way home from work and pick up fresh steaks and vegetables. I try to make sure that the kitchen is clean and ready for him. We make sure the children are fed and put to bed first. Then, he will prepare our meal. We will either eat at the table or sitting in our living room where it’s a little more cozy next to the woodstove.

I get the chance to talk with my love and not worry about the children still being under foot. Well, maybe everyone except the teenage boy at this point. He blesses me with a dinner that we both enjoy, and time spent together.


Now, I’ll share a couple of reminders:

– The world will not end because you cannot be reached by phone, email, text message, facebook, twitter, or other means. Your beloved deserves your undivided attention.
– Leave the TV, movies, and news off. Now, this is a little different if you are going out for a movie.
– Prepare your children for this time alone. Let them know that you love them, but this is “Mommy and Daddy time”. We have a rule in our house about times like this. “If you (or any of your siblings) are not bleeding, barfing, or not breathing, then you may not interrupt our time.”
– Bless each other! Date nights don’t have to be all about sex. Enjoy each other’s presence and company with no expectations.
– On the other hand, there are times that scheduling/planning sex after a date can be amazing! So much the better if it naturally leads there even when there were no previous expectations.

Date nights are about carving out time from our overwhelmed schedules to foster intimacy in our marriage. What are some other suggestions for date nights or reminders that you might like to share?

Fellow CMBA Members’ Posts:

The Generous Husband

The Generous Wife

Enhancing The Dance

Discovering a More Intimate Response

Loveseat Marriage

The Romantic Vineyard (guest posting on Engaged Marriage)

The Forgiven Wife

Directed Path Ministries

My Husband (Jason) at SongSix3

InTouch Marriage

Njeri Olang

Cracking The Marriage Code


Heart Dinner Plate Image courtesy of Boians Cho Joo Young at


Print Friendly, PDF & Email
(Visited 236 times, 1 visits today)

10 thoughts on “A Valentine’s Date

  1. Phil says:

    I love the steak idea, as well as staying home on date night when on a low budget but still enjoy a terrific time together. Happy Valentines day – blessings.

    1. Tiffani says:

      Thank you, Phil. Happy Valentine’s Day to you!

  2. I really appreciated your thoughts about date nights, I agree with your sentiments, it is about the time spent with undivided attention that is important, not necessarily what you are doing that makes it special. I am interested in the dinner steak date though, I am going to share that one with my husband. Here’s wishing you two a very blessed valentine’s day!
    Lisa Campbell recently posted…Date Night, Not What It USe To BeMy Profile

    1. Tiffani says:

      Thanks Lisa! Undivided attention is so hard these days. But, it is so important. I hope you get to enjoy a steak dinner soon too!

  3. Jessica says:

    I love the steak night date also! My husband is great at making steak. I really enjoy when we add some grilled jumbo shrimp on a skewer for a steak and shrimp dinner. Delightful!

    1. Tiffani says:

      Mmmmm… Shrimp! What a great idea! Thank you, Jessica.

  4. I really enjoyed your reminders about the fact that the world won’t end if we are unreachable as well as preparing your children for the fact that Mommy & Daddy need time alone. I think that so many couples think that they are abandoning their children if they take time alone from them. It will actually make your relationship stronger and therefore make you better parents.
    Thanks for your thoughts.

    1. Tiffani says:

      Thank you, Bradley.

  5. Njeri Olang' says:

    We thought along the same lines 🙂 Nice post dear.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

CommentLuv badge