Hello readers! Today we are finishing a 7-part series with my thoughts on what our 25th wedding anniversary means to me. This series started on Monday August 20th, skipped the weekend, and is wrapping up today, Tuesday August 28th – the actual date of our anniversary. Yep, that’s today!!! 25 Years Married! Please feel free to comment on each or any section of the series. Your feedback is welcome!
If you didn’t get to read yesterday’s post, click here to check it out, then come back and read on!
25 YEARS MARRIED… (the final post)
Alright readers, so this has been a whimsical story… but boy, what I wouldn’t have given for someone back then to sit down and share this stuff with me! Of course, we can’t go back in time and share wisdom with ourselves, but we CAN share with those we know that are young, and just starting out on this road we began traveling so long ago! Truly, how much heartache would Tiffani and I have NOT had to walk through if I’d only known these things???
It boggles my mind to think that maybe, JUST MAYBE, had we known Christ early in life, we might not have had to walk through a heart-rending year of separation in our marriage bond. Not to mention the awful baggage we had to work through after we reconciled! Ugh!!
Had I known what relationship priorities even were, would my dear wife have felt that she was a single mom and needed to live her life separate and apart from mine?
If I had guarded my heart and mind against outside sexual temptations, would I EVER have gotten myself into an adulterous situation that would grieve my Lord and rip my wife’s heart into pieces?
Teaching my children and leading my wife in biblical instruction is one that I’m learning much more recently, and I can see how critically important this is. This has become an area to work on, for me. And I commit to this, for the sake of my children, my wife, and my marriage.
And finally… forgiveness. Wow, what can I say about this? I have finally realized that the unimaginable burden of pain and suffering that Tiffani & I have heaped on each other through the years was the direct result of not having Christ in our earlier lives. I am SO thankful that Jesus forgave ME, and taught me through His Word how to forgive my wife. We have had to forgive each other for some horrendously hurtful things. But through Christ, it IS possible. And we’re learning together that there is indeed beauty found on the other side of the pain.
As I close this series, I want to say quite simply, that today I am the world’s most blessed man. As of today, August 28th 2012, I have been married for 25 years to the lady whom God gave me as MY PERFECT GIFT for this life. For most of that time (the exceptions being those times of sin I noted previously), she has been my companion, my nurse, my lover, and MY VERY BEST FRIEND.
Tiffani, knowing where we came from, and seeing what you have become today… demonstrates irrefutable proof that God has been (and continues to be) hard at work in your heart. I love you with everything that I am, and I pray that I am as big a blessing to your life as you are to mine. I look forward to the next 25 years together with great anticipation! And the best part is that it starts TODAY! Ready, set, GO!!!
Yours, until death do we part
August 28, 2012
If you missed any of this series, please use these links to go back and revisit any of the previous posts.
Special thanks for this series:
I want to extend a couple of very special “Thank You!” notes to the people who helped me craft this series into being.
~To my friend Brad of One Flesh Marriage, thanks for the outstanding editing advice! Every time I think I’ve got something looking pretty good, you manage to suggest something even better! (Twitter users, please follow them – @1fleshmarriage)
~Byron, I appreciate your encouragement! Byron is an elder in my church, and a man I look up to with huge respect for his great depth of understanding of the scriptures. Thanks brother!
~And to my wonderful wife, Tiffani – at a time in your life when Satan put other ‘options’ on his table of temptations for you to pick from… YOU CHOSE ME. As long as I live and breathe, I will not forget that. You have my heart. Happy 25th anniversary!!