Hello readers! Today we are finishing a 7-part series with my thoughts on what our 25th wedding anniversary means to me. This series started on Monday August 20th, skipped the weekend, and is wrapping up today, Tuesday August 28th – the actual date of our anniversary. Yep, that’s today!!! 25 Years Married! Please feel free to comment on each or any section of the series. Your feedback is welcome!

If you didn’t get to read yesterday’s post, click here to check it out, then come back and read on!

25 YEARS MARRIED… (the final post)

Alright readers, so this has been a whimsical story… but boy, what I wouldn’t have given for someone back then to sit down and share this stuff with me! Of course, we can’t go back in time and share wisdom with ourselves, but we CAN share with those we know that are young, and just starting out on this road we began traveling so long ago! Truly, how much heartache would Tiffani and I have NOT had to walk through if I’d only known these things???

It boggles my mind to think that maybe, JUST MAYBE, had we known Christ early in life, we might not have had to walk through a heart-rending year of separation in our marriage bond. Not to mention the awful baggage we had to work through after we reconciled! Ugh!!

Had I known what relationship priorities even were, would my dear wife have felt that she was a single mom and needed to live her life separate and apart from mine?

If I had guarded my heart and mind against outside sexual temptations, would I EVER have gotten myself into an adulterous situation that would grieve my Lord and rip my wife’s heart into pieces?

Teaching my children and leading my wife in biblical instruction is one that I’m learning much more recently, and I can see how critically important this is. This has become an area to work on, for me. And I commit to this, for the sake of my children, my wife, and my marriage.

And finally… forgiveness. Wow, what can I say about this? I have finally realized that the unimaginable burden of pain and suffering that Tiffani & I have heaped on each other through the years was the direct result of not having Christ in our earlier lives. I am SO thankful that Jesus forgave ME, and taught me through His Word how to forgive my wife. We have had to forgive each other for some horrendously hurtful things. But through Christ, it IS possible. And we’re learning together that there is indeed beauty found on the other side of the pain.

As I close this series, I want to say quite simply, that today I am the world’s most blessed man. As of today, August 28th 2012, I have been married for 25 years to the lady whom God gave me as MY PERFECT GIFT for this life. For most of that time (the exceptions being those times of sin I noted previously), she has been my companion, my nurse, my lover, and MY VERY BEST FRIEND.

 

Jason & Tiffani

Tiffani, knowing where we came from, and seeing what you have become today… demonstrates irrefutable proof that God has been (and continues to be) hard at work in your heart. I love you with everything that I am, and I pray that I am as big a blessing to your life as you are to mine. I look forward to the next 25 years together with great anticipation! And the best part is that it starts TODAY! Ready, set, GO!!!

~Jason
Yours, until death do we part
August 28, 2012

If you missed any of this series, please use these links to go back and revisit any of the previous posts.

25 Years Married… Part 1
25 Years Married… Part 2
25 Years Married… Part 3
25 Years Married… Part 4
25 Years Married… Part 5
25 Years Married… Part 6

Special thanks for this series:
I want to extend a couple of very special “Thank You!” notes to the people who helped me craft this series into being.
~To my friend Brad of One Flesh Marriage, thanks for the outstanding editing advice! Every time I think I’ve got something looking pretty good, you manage to suggest something even better! (Twitter users, please follow them – @1fleshmarriage)
~Byron, I appreciate your encouragement! Byron is an elder in my church, and a man I look up to with huge respect for his great depth of understanding of the scriptures. Thanks brother!
~And to my wonderful wife, Tiffani – at a time in your life when Satan put other ‘options’ on his table of temptations for you to pick from… YOU CHOSE ME. As long as I live and breathe, I will not forget that. You have my heart. Happy 25th anniversary!!

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4 thoughts on “25 Years Married… Part7

  1. Jennifer says:

    🙂 I have loved this! I might steal this idea in (doing math) 18 years. I might do it at our 10th in a few years.

    I do have to note that both of us have been Christians for many, many years and yet we still have had to walk in some of the same fires you guys have. Satan’s goal is to destroy and isolate. He does it well. But when we take the time to show others our areas where we didn’t “catch the snake”, we help others see that his tricks never change.
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    1. Jason says:

      None of us is invulnerable to attacks or deceptions from Satan. Those who believe they are immune are the ones who will fall the quickest. We are warned in 1 Corinthians 10:12-13 to BEWARE of our own pride:

      Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed that he does not fall. No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

      And you are welcome to steal the idea! (I did too!)
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  2. Byron says:

    What a blessing this series has been to me. Your messages have such sincerity and a purity that is almost unfounded on the internet. You tell your story with such realism that touches the heart and soul of your readers. The guiding light of the Holy Spirit has blessed your marriage in a way that speaks to us all. Your testimony makes me want to say “I want that!” And we know with Jesus as the Center of our lives, we too can have an happy and enduring marriage. I want to hug my wife just a little tighter, and stare into her eyes just a little longer and let her know with assurance through my words and my actions that she is greatly loved, respected and cherished. Thank you so very much Jason for digging into the past and having the courage to bring up some things that you knew would be difficult to relive, but would be a blessing to so many.

    1. Jason says:

      Thanks Byron! I am so glad you came by to read and comment on this one! I look on your marriage with your lovely wife… the marriage you BEGAN in Christ… and I almost have ENVY! (Except that envy is a sin, so let’s not go there!) Haha! As I’ve been reminded so many times over the past 14 or so months, we absolutely cannot change our past – what’s done is done. But we have the power to decide what we do with the “here and now”. I know where Tiffani and I stand here and now, and it’s a beautiful place. I wouldn’t trade what I have now for ANYTHING. It cost us way too much in blood, pain, and tears. Jesus is redeeming the time we lost in our past sins. For awhile that fact was difficult to detect, but I see it clearly now. And I am grateful.
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