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The Most Beautiful Woman In The World

Greetings Husbands!

Does your wife struggle with her body image? Does she continually compare herself to the world’s standards of beauty and find herself coming up short? When you call her “beautiful”, does she retort with “yeah, right!”, “you’re blind!”, or something similar?

Chances are probably pretty good that you and I each view our own wives as incredibly beautiful, babe-like, hot, etc… and we have a hard time understanding why they are so down upon themselves.

Society and the media have created an extremely warped view of what “beauty” is, and we’ve been trained since birth to buy into that view. It really IS all about sex – and not at all about true beauty, which is God-ordained.

My wife and I recently read through a few books that addressed this topic (as well as others), and she has begun to have an awakening of sorts. She has realized that even though she’s been a Christian since 1990, she has carried these wrong beliefs all her life. But changing that heart and mindset is (as I’m now realizing) NOT an easy thing for our wives. Men, they NEED our encouragement as they go through this time of change. (Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.) Our wives desperately need to hear us say to them –

“YOU ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMAN IN THE WORLD!”

And guys – WE NEED TO MEAN IT! When you say this, it needs to come straight from your heart in the form of a real COMPLIMENT, directed at the woman of your dreams – YOUR wife! We do NOT want to flatter our wives. The definition of ‘flattery’ is “excessive, insincere praise”. To carry that one step further, the definition of ‘insincere’ is “not honest in the expression of actual feeling; hypocritical”. I doubt that any Christian man would want to knowingly be dishonest and/or hypocritical with his wife. Let truth rule the day! (James 3:4-5 Look at the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder wherever the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things. See how great a forest is set aflame by such a small fire!)

So here’s a little light-hearted advice for those of you who might be wondering how to help your wife with this particular struggle…

For several months, I’ve been making comments towards my beloved wife as “the most beautiful woman in the world”, just getting that thought into her head and heart over and over again. I recently purchased a 16″x60″ mirror from Home Depot at the relatively cheap price of $24.99. I hung it on our bathroom door, then took my wife over to stand in front of it. I leaned in over her shoulder and pointed, saying “This is a photograph of the worlds’ most beautiful woman. Every time you get down about yourself, I want you to stand in front of it and ask God to make you look more and more like HER every day!” Of course, she giggled and laughed about it, BUT… she’s admitted to me several times since then that while I’m at work, she’s done exactly that. And God IS changing her perception about what constitutes “beauty”! She said she’s felt the Lord telling her that her husband sees NONE of the supposed “imperfections”, extra pounds, and age lines that seem overwhelming to her. God has told her that she needs to begin to see herself as HE does, and that her husband was long ago on-board with that. (Genesis 2:25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.)

Gentlemen, our wives need our help to begin to understand God’s standard of beauty. She needs to know that we see her with our Father’s eyes. Will you commit this year to tell your wife that SHE is the most beautiful woman on earth?

More importantly, will you mean it? She WILL know the difference!

Other Scripture References:

1 Timothy 2:9-10 Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

Proverbs 6:24-26 To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life.

Your Brother In Christ,

~Jason

Here are links to some great RELATED articles by fellow bloggers:

http://www.onefleshmarriage.com/2012/01/ogle-away.html
http://peacefulwife.com/2012/04/08/does-your-body-image-honor-god
http://www.oysterbed7.com/2012/04/christian-and-sexy.htmlhttp://www.hotholyhumorous.com/2012/11/gods-handiwork-woman.html
Forgiven Wife – Beautiful?

(I originally posted this article at AwesomeHusbands.org on 01/12/2012)

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25 thoughts on “The Most Beautiful Woman In The World

  1. Jason,

    I REALLY love how creative and proactive you were with the full length mirror idea. The battle women face with our perception of our own physical beauty can be a brutal one. I believe most women don’t feel very beautiful at all in their own eyes. I like your idea and how you found a way to build your wife up and show her how beautiful she is in your eyes and in God’s eyes. What an incredibly loving, Christ-like thing to do!
    Husbands, I can’t imagine any wife objecting to this idea! I give it an A+ and would encourage other husbands to try something similar.
    When your wife actually feels and knows she is beautiful, she will be so much more confident and husbands benefit, too!

    April

  2. Thank you April! Tiffani has really come full circle as she and I have continued to study what God’s Word has to say about this particular topic. And she is a much happier woman for it! She now understands that she doesn’t have to meet some totally unrealistic image standard to receive my approval. She already has it!

    I wish husbands everywhere could see this, and realize how important it is for US to lift our wives up as they struggle with this. It’s so completely unnecessary for them to go through it!

    Anyone else reading this comment… please see April’s article to get a female perspective on this very important topic.

    http://peacefulwife.com/2012/04/08/does-your-body-image-honor-god/
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  3. I am so glad you posted this! So many husbands need to read this. I am so very blessed that my husband is such an awesome helper in this area! I too was one of those women who couldn’t see my own beauty because of the “world”. My husband is helping me to slowly see my true beauty. Thank you again for posting!

  4. Hi Dana, my hat is off to your hubby for encouraging you in this way!

    I’m just sorry that it took me SO many years to understand that this was a need for my wife – or I’d have done it LONG ago! 😉

    Thanks for stopping by!

  5. That is awesome Jason. Your wife (assuming the cute redhead at the top is her) is beautiful. Love that hair! I remember my husband shortly after we got married, and he still says this, telling me that his eyes are my mirror. That is a huge thing when surrounded by the world’s idea of beauty.

    • Hi Joy,

      That redhead at the top most certainly is my beautiful one! And I too LOVE her hair! (of course, I love everything else about her too!)

      In August we will have been married 25 years, and it just keeps getting better, as we submit ourselves to Jesus!

      I’m gonna have to remember that about his eyes being your mirror. I like that!

      Thank you for the compliment, and for visiting our site today!

  6. YES!!! I understand your gorgeous ladyfish’s quandary. It’s hard to let go and just ACCEPT, BELIEVE and SAVOR that we are beautiful/hott/sexy to our husbands, no matter what our shape! I love reading this from the male perspective! Bravo, Jason.
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  7. Jason, no good. For over 20 years I have given honest compliments, logical arguments (both easy, because other females, male friends and even total strangers tell my wife how attractive she is, and that she looks ten years younger than her age). She is convinced that she has an unattractive body, and has told me many times over that nothing I say makes any difference. And years of wasted compliments prove her to be right. She says that women notice details of other women (wrinkles, imperfect nails, a grey hair, etc. etc. etc.) that men miss. She has always been painfully self-conscious.

    • Hello Miller,

      Wow, that’s a sad story. I don’t know that I have any real great answers for you. All I can say is to KEEP IT UP. Don’t EVER let her believe you’ve given up on her. Any possibility she might read this story for herself? God made your wife (and mine too), and God doesn’t make mistakes. HE sees your wife as an awesome, wonderful creature, and she really ought to believe God – even if she doesn’t believe her husband. If she keeps comparing herself to other women, then she’s bought into the lie of “beauty” that the world keeps pushing at us. The Shulamite woman in Song of Solomon thought that she too was ugly… specifically that her skin was extra dark because she’d been burned by working in the sun. Just keep loving her, brother. She needs you to do that. God made her that way.

  8. Just wondered how a wife whose husband who has been unfaithful and told his wife that the other woman was prettier than her, can ever believe this when he says it.

    • Hi Ava,

      That is a tough question. I do know that people involved in affairs can say some incredibly stupid things, and also things that are intended to be spiteful – whether they’re true or not. The goal at that moment is simply to add insult to the injury. I obviously don’t know the situation in your case.

      Has he stopped the adultery and committed to working on the marriage with you? If so, you will need to give him grace, and room to rebuild the trust he has destroyed. This will not be easy for you. But if he has said he wants the marriage to work, and you have the same desire, then you MUST work together… you need to forgive, and he needs to open his entire life to you – cell phones, email accounts, etc… he needs to be completely transparent, and to have understanding when you struggle with mind battles.

      Prayerfully, in time you will both be much more able to trust each other and to give and receive words of love and affirmation from each other. We WILL pray for you.

  9. Wow what an awesome article. I’m unmarried but I know who I am in Christ. I’m going to print this article and give it to several of my girlfriends husbands.

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  11. Jason, the first thing I wish to say about this topic is that you wrote this article from the depth of your heart about your wife. Once a woman confirms that her husband sees her as the most beautiful woman, she will love her husband back and will strive to please him.

    Mine, I see and treat my wife as the best woman on earth and tells people that if I should make the choice again 100 times of who to marry, I will still choose her. So, Jason, you are doing wonderful works and your writings are touching lives, ride on.
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    • Hello Princevinco!

      Thanks so much for stopping in to read today! It is a huge blessing to me that this post is still getting attention over 3 years after I wrote it!

      But the message it contains still holds true to this day. Our wives should be the most beautiful women in our world, without question.
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  12. Hi Jason. I wish my husband believed as you do. Unfortunately for me he believes the lies of the media. And he’s having another affair. It hurts more than I can express. Thanks for your web site and your encouragement.

    • Hi Kris,

      Thank you for reading today. I am SO sorry that your husband is so incredibly deceived as to be involved in affairs. We have walked that road, and believe me – it’s a TERRIBLE path to walk. Unfortunately for most, the momentary “thrill” outweighs common sense, as well as the years of history that one has built up with the spouse. We are here to pray with you, if you like. If your husband ever comes to his senses and you guys want some help through the aftermath of the destructive behavior, I’m happy to do some phone counseling with you both. In the meantime, Psalm 37:4-5 is what you need to be living out. Hit us through the contact page if you’d like to talk more. ~Jason

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